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The Stalker: Motivations and Intentions

A stalker is someone who can’t help checking on someone else after every now and then. In other words is someone who so obsessed with something and they can’t help trying to keep in touch with. At one point in our lives we have either been a stalker or a victim of stalker. Stalking can be either positive or negative depending on the intention of the stalker. A mother can stalk her baby to ensure she/he does not engage in harmful behaviors while ill-meaning people can stalk you to obtain sensitive information about you. Enough of the Mumbo-jumbo, we all know who a stalker is. So what makes stalking so addictive? Here are some of the reasons:

Stalkers will not take no for an answer

They refuse to believe that a victim is not interested in them or will not rekindle their relationship and often believe that the victim really does love them, but just doesn’t know it and needs to be pushed into realizing it. As long as they continue pursuing their victim, the stalker can convince themselves they haven’t been completely rejected yet.

Stalkers display an obsessive personality.

They are not just interested in, but totally obsessed with the person they are pursuing. Their every waking thought centers on the victim, and every plan the stalker has for the future involves the victim. Ask yourself this. Is the person totally involved in and completely overwhelmed with pursuing someone who has no and never will have any interest in him or her?

Along with obsessive thinking, they also display other psychological or personality problems and disorders. Stalkers are normally paranoid and delusional.

Stalkers are above average in intelligence and are usually smarter!

They will go to great lengths to obtain information about their victims or to find victims who have secretly moved. They have been known to hack into computers, tap telephone lines, take jobs at public utilities that allow them access to the victims or information about the victims, and even to travel thousands of miles and spend thousands of dollars to gain information about or find their victims. Stalkers many times use their intelligence to throw others off their trail.

Most stalkers don’t have any relationship outside the one they are trying to re-establish or the one they have imagined exists between them and their victim. 

Because they are usually loners, stalkers become desperate to obtain this relationship.

Stalkers don’t display the discomfort or anxiety that people should naturally feel in certain situations.

Normal individuals would be extremely embarrassed to be caught following other people, going through their trash looking for information about them, leaving obscene notes, and other inappropriate behavior displayed by stalkers. Stalkers, however, don’t see this as inappropriate behavior, but only as a means to gain the person’s love.

Stalkers often suffer from low self-esteem, and feel they must have a relationship with the victim in order to have any self-worth.

Preoccupations with other people almost always involve someone with weak social skills and low self-esteem.

http://www.interestingstories.net/stalker-makes-65000-in-a-year/  for an interesting anecdote on a stalker


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